Ah, peace and love, man. I'm all for positivity in life, but you can't have positivity without negativity. Just like you can't have dark without light, warm without cold, the moon without the sun. So, I'm about to talk about some things that just really bother me about some people.
1. When people say that girls who wear make-up are "fake".
Yes, I wear make-up. I love my make-up. I take offense to this because the last thing I ever am is fake. I love being myself in every aspect. Make-up is not a way of covering myself up. It is a way of expression and beauty. If I could go out every day without wearing make-up, I would. But unfortunately, I feel more confident when I'm wearing make-up, and there's nothing wrong with confidence. My make-up accents my face and my hair. It's like wearing clothes that flatter your body. I am more myself with make-up than without it, and if that's "fake" to anyone, well then frankly, you can fuck off.
2. Hypocrites and Liars.
I just can't seem to wrap my mind around people who bash on people who do the things that they themselves do...? Like, practice what you preach. Clearly if someone does something to annoy you, but you do the same thing, I'm sure you're definitely annoying other people. If there is something that people do that you don't like, and you find yourself doing the same thing, instead of complaining about it, maybe it would be best if you work to better yourself. There's nothing wrong with realizing you do something negative. Once you realize it, the best thing to do would be to fix it to become the best kind of person you can be.
Now, liars. (smh) I've always been a brutally honest person. Lying is just fake, and unnecessary, and causes problems. I've never understood why you should lie about something in your life. Learn to take pride in your life and your actions. If you do something that you wish you could take back, own up to it and fix it. Lying it just digging a deeper hole. I understand lying to your parents about going to a rager in high school (we've all been there), but the less you lie, the more you can accept your life and accept yourself as a person. I've never been ashamed of my life and my opinions. I have these thoughts and this life for a reason. There's no need to hide it. Honesty is probably one of the top three things I look for in people to surround myself with in life.
3. Bad Grammar.
Haha, kill me. I really wish this didn't have to be one of my pet peeves, but the fact that every day I run into people who seem to have skipped every English class in their life, it sadly is something I can't stand. EDUCATION IS NOT A BAD THING. I wish people would stop looking at school like a burden in their life. Everyone should strive to be as educated as they can to avoid looking like a complete fool in this world. Grammar is one simple thing to make yourself seem more educated (even if you really aren't). Learn proper English before you graduate high school, I promise you it will come in handy every day of your life.
4. People who say "respect is earned".
Now, I understand why this is said. I just don't agree with it. Respect shouldn't be something that everyone has to earn. Respect should be given right off the bat. There is no reason to not respect someone you just met. The only time respect should be earned is if someone you once respected has lost your respect. Then they need to earn it back. But I think this world would be a better place if respect is given to everyone until they prove they don't deserve it.
"Sometimes I lay under the moon and thank God I'm breathing, then I pray don't take me soon 'cause I am here for a reason."
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sl9voSKJmEU
Monday, October 1, 2012
Monday, April 30, 2012
Unitarianism
Unitarianism is an open-minded and individualistic approach to religion that gives scope for a very wide range of beliefs and doubts.
After 19 years of life, I finally know exactly what I believe in. I was raised to be a Christian and when I went through confirmation at my church, I was even a hardcore Christian. Looking back on it now, it felt like I was almost brainwashed. That's not a dig at Christians, it's just how I felt. I was so judgemental of people who weren't Christians and the youth group I went to was just a bunch of teenagers gossiping about new drama that week.
In high school, I started realizing that while most people in my church were decent human beings, calling yourself a Christian doesn't make you some sort of saint who's better than people who aren't. I started believing in God more and the Bible less. High school was a dark and confusing time for me so I didn't know what to believe in anymore. By the time high school was over, I felt ridiculous for living by someone else's rules other than my own. For awhile I even thought I was athiest. But I'm not because I truly do believe in God.
So alas, I have come across this amazing religion. I am a Unitarian. I believe in God, but I do not believe in the Bible. I believe that everyone is free to search for meaning in life in their own way and to reach their own conclusions. I do not judge other religions or other lifestyles. I only judge how you treat other people because that is the true judge of character. Your religion does not define your character.
I know people whose lives have gotten better once they found Christ. And I am happy for them because we should all live a better life than we did yesterday. But for me, my life got better once I was free. I'm free of judging people who don't live up to the Bible's standards. I'm free of forcing Christianity upon people because the "right" way to live is through Jesus. I'm free to live my life how I want to and to be the one who decides what is right and what is wrong in this world.
P.S. After I had decided I was a Unitarian, I found out that my aunt has also been one for many years and that she goes to a Unitarian church. I didn't even think that there were very many Unitarians in America let alone my family. It was quite odd and uplifting.
After 19 years of life, I finally know exactly what I believe in. I was raised to be a Christian and when I went through confirmation at my church, I was even a hardcore Christian. Looking back on it now, it felt like I was almost brainwashed. That's not a dig at Christians, it's just how I felt. I was so judgemental of people who weren't Christians and the youth group I went to was just a bunch of teenagers gossiping about new drama that week.
In high school, I started realizing that while most people in my church were decent human beings, calling yourself a Christian doesn't make you some sort of saint who's better than people who aren't. I started believing in God more and the Bible less. High school was a dark and confusing time for me so I didn't know what to believe in anymore. By the time high school was over, I felt ridiculous for living by someone else's rules other than my own. For awhile I even thought I was athiest. But I'm not because I truly do believe in God.
So alas, I have come across this amazing religion. I am a Unitarian. I believe in God, but I do not believe in the Bible. I believe that everyone is free to search for meaning in life in their own way and to reach their own conclusions. I do not judge other religions or other lifestyles. I only judge how you treat other people because that is the true judge of character. Your religion does not define your character.
I know people whose lives have gotten better once they found Christ. And I am happy for them because we should all live a better life than we did yesterday. But for me, my life got better once I was free. I'm free of judging people who don't live up to the Bible's standards. I'm free of forcing Christianity upon people because the "right" way to live is through Jesus. I'm free to live my life how I want to and to be the one who decides what is right and what is wrong in this world.
P.S. After I had decided I was a Unitarian, I found out that my aunt has also been one for many years and that she goes to a Unitarian church. I didn't even think that there were very many Unitarians in America let alone my family. It was quite odd and uplifting.
It shouldn't matter what religion someone is. Love and peace should conquer over everything.
This song describes how I got to where I am so well.
Wednesday, April 4, 2012
Hicks? More like dicks..
Now, I'm usually a fan of all guys. I don't have a type because guy is my type. Love 'em all. But hicks, I've never really been a fan of.
Since I live in Iowa, where we have a lot of open space for hunting, and fishing, and mudding (hick hobbies), naturally, there are lots of "hicks" also. I don't have a problems with those hobbies - except for hunting becasue I'm an animal lover - I even enjoy some of them because the outdoors is a fun place. But when someone "decides" that they're gonna be a "hick" now, not only do they get a new wardrobe, but they also get a new attitude.
If you were to see a "hick" in the south, the words "southern gentleman" might come to mind. Because that's what hicks are supposedly known for in the south. They have respect and manners. But in Iowa, that's a different story. I'm not trying to stereotype all hicks, but from my years of living in Iowa, 95% of the hicks I've met have been theeee biggest assholes I've ever encountered.
They think they're so tough because they like to get dirty, and they drive big trucks, and they kill live animals. But along with all that fun stuff, they think they own the world and their attitude on everything is completely disgusting. They are the most judgemental, narrow-minded, bullying, rude people that I know. I feel like there must be a correlation between being a hick and being a dick. I just can't understand how anyone could possibly stand to hang around them. Yes, they do fun activities, but their comments and their not-giving-a-fuck-about-anyone-but-myself attitudes are atrocious and frankly, unattractive.
A word of advice to guys, but mostly hicks: treat women with respect, don't purposely cause drama, deflate your ego, and read a book to learn proper English.
This song is a little cliche, but seriously, being mean won't get anyone anywhere. (plus the irony of the setting in this video is funny)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jYa1eI1hpDE&ob=av2e
Since I live in Iowa, where we have a lot of open space for hunting, and fishing, and mudding (hick hobbies), naturally, there are lots of "hicks" also. I don't have a problems with those hobbies - except for hunting becasue I'm an animal lover - I even enjoy some of them because the outdoors is a fun place. But when someone "decides" that they're gonna be a "hick" now, not only do they get a new wardrobe, but they also get a new attitude.
If you were to see a "hick" in the south, the words "southern gentleman" might come to mind. Because that's what hicks are supposedly known for in the south. They have respect and manners. But in Iowa, that's a different story. I'm not trying to stereotype all hicks, but from my years of living in Iowa, 95% of the hicks I've met have been theeee biggest assholes I've ever encountered.
They think they're so tough because they like to get dirty, and they drive big trucks, and they kill live animals. But along with all that fun stuff, they think they own the world and their attitude on everything is completely disgusting. They are the most judgemental, narrow-minded, bullying, rude people that I know. I feel like there must be a correlation between being a hick and being a dick. I just can't understand how anyone could possibly stand to hang around them. Yes, they do fun activities, but their comments and their not-giving-a-fuck-about-anyone-but-myself attitudes are atrocious and frankly, unattractive.
A word of advice to guys, but mostly hicks: treat women with respect, don't purposely cause drama, deflate your ego, and read a book to learn proper English.
This song is a little cliche, but seriously, being mean won't get anyone anywhere. (plus the irony of the setting in this video is funny)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jYa1eI1hpDE&ob=av2e
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Everything's An Illusion
Wow, two blog posts in two days. #newrecord. << I should probably leave the hashtags to Twitter. Sorry, #habit. Oops :)
Anywhoooo, I seem to have kind of started my blog off a different way than most people would. So I'm gonna kinda go backwards here and do an "About Me" post now.
1. Da first ting you should know is dat I am exactly like my blog.
In other words, I don't usually do things how "normal" people would do them, or most people I should say. I like to be utterly unique. But not like a Lady Gaga unique, that's just crossing a line.. But yes, I've always been weird and different, which explains my lack of friends. Its hard to find people who share your same weirdness. I have stumbled upon a few though (:
2. My personality could be summed up by saying I have many different personalities..
Kinda creepy sounding, but I don't know how else to put it! Its like, I have a little bit of every personality trait in me. It all depends on my mood, who I'm with, and what we're doing. Most people only see what they wanna see in me, and hey, I get it. But clearly they've only seen the bad parts then (probably because there are a lot). Bashing myself on my own blog? Welp its just like Lindsay Lohan on Saturday Night Live last week when she was totally making fun of all the things that's been going on in her life. Sometimes, you just gotta admit the truth and accept it.
3. Which brings me to my next point.
I am a surprisingly honest person. I just never see the point in lying. That has also cost me a few friends... but I don't want to be known as a liar. So sometimes my honesty may be taken too far, but that's reality for ya. I can't stand people who lie; how can anyone ever trust you? Do you lie to yourself too? Because that's just sad and that's like being in Plato's Cave. (Look it up >> http://faculty.washington.edu/smcohen/320/cave.htm)
4. Alright, so another thing about me is my passion.
I kind of explained this in my last post, but I am just very passionate about what I love. I hate half-assing those things. (I half-ass a lot of things though hehe) I am a fashion major so yes I will judge your clothes. I think style is just such a great way to judge a person - the good kind of judge - before you actually get to know them. People who wear sweats a lot are people who are comfortable with themselves. People who like to dress up a lot and look their best always want people's approval of them and care what people think. And yes I am in that second category.
5. It's hard to talk about myself because even I am not quite sure what I'm all about.
Not to get that confused with I don't know who I am, because I do. I just surprise myself a lot and am very confused by my own thoughts. I have so many different opinions and thoughts and ideas it's just hard to understand myself, let alone other people understanding me. I used to hate it when people hated me because I just wanted everyone to like me. But that required me to change for other people, and that's just not what I'm about.
Here are some pictures to kind of sum up myself:
Anywhoooo, I seem to have kind of started my blog off a different way than most people would. So I'm gonna kinda go backwards here and do an "About Me" post now.
1. Da first ting you should know is dat I am exactly like my blog.
In other words, I don't usually do things how "normal" people would do them, or most people I should say. I like to be utterly unique. But not like a Lady Gaga unique, that's just crossing a line.. But yes, I've always been weird and different, which explains my lack of friends. Its hard to find people who share your same weirdness. I have stumbled upon a few though (:
2. My personality could be summed up by saying I have many different personalities..
Kinda creepy sounding, but I don't know how else to put it! Its like, I have a little bit of every personality trait in me. It all depends on my mood, who I'm with, and what we're doing. Most people only see what they wanna see in me, and hey, I get it. But clearly they've only seen the bad parts then (probably because there are a lot). Bashing myself on my own blog? Welp its just like Lindsay Lohan on Saturday Night Live last week when she was totally making fun of all the things that's been going on in her life. Sometimes, you just gotta admit the truth and accept it.
3. Which brings me to my next point.
I am a surprisingly honest person. I just never see the point in lying. That has also cost me a few friends... but I don't want to be known as a liar. So sometimes my honesty may be taken too far, but that's reality for ya. I can't stand people who lie; how can anyone ever trust you? Do you lie to yourself too? Because that's just sad and that's like being in Plato's Cave. (Look it up >> http://faculty.washington.edu/smcohen/320/cave.htm)
4. Alright, so another thing about me is my passion.
I kind of explained this in my last post, but I am just very passionate about what I love. I hate half-assing those things. (I half-ass a lot of things though hehe) I am a fashion major so yes I will judge your clothes. I think style is just such a great way to judge a person - the good kind of judge - before you actually get to know them. People who wear sweats a lot are people who are comfortable with themselves. People who like to dress up a lot and look their best always want people's approval of them and care what people think. And yes I am in that second category.
5. It's hard to talk about myself because even I am not quite sure what I'm all about.
Not to get that confused with I don't know who I am, because I do. I just surprise myself a lot and am very confused by my own thoughts. I have so many different opinions and thoughts and ideas it's just hard to understand myself, let alone other people understanding me. I used to hate it when people hated me because I just wanted everyone to like me. But that required me to change for other people, and that's just not what I'm about.
Here are some pictures to kind of sum up myself:
"Truth is we mess up till we get it right; I don't want to end up losing my soul."
Monday, March 12, 2012
What College Has Taught Me..
Apart from all of the actual knowledge that I have gained through my very interesting/boring classes that are shaping me as a human being, I grew wiser through my own experiences.
1. Own up to all your mistakes.
Everyone makes mistakes. Its as simple as that. No one is perfect, no matter how hard I try to be. Sometime we just get caught up in the moment and things happen because we'd rather go with the flow than think. My last post was owning up to the major mistakes I've made lately. It's better to be the bigger person.
2. Motivation is everything.
One of my best friends who is in the army at the moment, gave me some great advice recently. He said that motivation is the key to life. Be motivated to get up in the morning. Be motivated to follow your dreams. Be motivated to always be a better person. Laziness is not an option. Don't wish for it, do it.
3. Take risks.
Life is too short to not experiment with it. Always try something new and shake up your life a bit. Splurge on that dress if it'll make you happy. Try that new restaurant. Take every opportunity. If an opportunity comes along, don't assume another one will come along after it.
4. It's not all about money.
Although I love money and want to be rich someday, I've realized lately that you can't worry about money so much. It should be about enjoying your life and having fun. For instance I had signed up for a class that made me really unhappy and I dreaded it and didn't agree with what the teacher was telling us (it was Philosophy). So I dropped out even though I couldn't get my money back. Now I never have to stress about that class and I'm just happier overall.
5. You can do anything you want.
When I was younger, I wanted to be an actress and model (I still kinda do). And I heard all the time about how its so hard to make it in that industry and most people don't succeed. But over the course of about 3 years I had walked a runway, been in a hairshow, been in a movie, and met people from Hollywood. People are so skeptical about dreams that they make other people not try for theirs. I never let anyone tell me I can't do something because I know that it is possible to do anything, especially if other people are out there already doing what you want to do. It takes hard work, dedication, and thick skin. You're gonna be told no a lot in your lifetime, but all you need is that one person to say yes. Never give up.
"I'm not one for missed adventures, so I answered with a smile." xx
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EZyhmGSFmpg
Sunday, March 4, 2012
All Of This
I used to have so many people in my life.
Within the past 3 months I've lost one of my best friends and one of my sisters. (not literally)
It was all my fault, and I apologize.
Mikayla.
I asked her to stop talking to my ex-boyfriend because he was stalking me. At the time, I could only see my point of view and I couldn't understand why she refused to stop talking to him. They were friends but not as long as me and her were friends (17 years). I was being selfish. And now we are no longer friends. I just sat around and waited for her to apologize, but I'm the one who is sorry. I forgive her for choosing my ex-boyfriend over me. We were growing apart as friends, and I think she is better off without me in her life. Mikayla, we've had quite a friendship. Nothing will come close to it.
Breanna.
The saying I live by is Let It Be, so that's what I'm going to do now and forever, and may things fall into place how they're meant to be.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qYeXcLr3NRQ
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